The problem with educating stupid people was that they didn’t know they were stupid. The same went for curing crazy people.
― Chuck Palahniuk, Phoenix
Meaning of Stupid:
annoying or irritating; troublesome
Dumb, ignorant, not being smart.
Who are these Stupid People:
Simple af. They are the idiots and morons who emotionally combat you at every turn.
They are not your mentors, your coaches, or concerned friends/ lover and advocates.
No. These people are different than that.
When you decide to invest in your own mental and physical betterment, they make it their mission to “bring you back to reality”. They are the masters of the “that’ll never work” and “we’ll see how long that lasts”.
What I’m implying by stupid is hardly a low-level IQ. “Stupid” as used here refers to a mean-spirited, uneducated, extremely arrogant person with a tendency to make preposterous assumptions and value-judgments and with incurable inferiority complex. Also, their another, defensive, so to speak, tendency is to raise their voice if countered by any counter-arguments. I’m sure you’ve met such people before. I can’t get aggressive or physically violent (I just can’t do that, not that type of person); they won’t, don’t want to and can’t understand any valid objections that I raise in response to their stupid claims; if I put headphones on, it usually hinders them, but somehow they manage to involve me in their goddamn ” intellectual debates”.
Alas, there’s no cure for stupidity. Constantly surrounded by people like that can seriously reduce efficiency and increase the blood pressure. Few points (below) to handle stupid people:
HANDLE STUPID PEOPLE:
- Lower your standard
- Expect less. It’s amazing how tolerant you can be when you don’t even anticipate the smallest of kindnesses.
We are programmed to give others the benefit of the doubt. We tend to think that at the end of the day, others will do the right thing by us. That eventually the truth will win out over all that is evil.
Stop thinking that (about stupid people). You’re setting yourself up for a swift shoe in the pants.
Expect incessant ridicule, distorted emotional misrepresentation, and hyperbolic injustice.
It’s powerful for you when you come mentally prepared.
- Selectively engage them
- Avoid controversy. It’s that easy.
Whatever you do, do not debate with them. For them, the debate is the goal. They want you flustered, emotional, and confused. That makes them smile on the inside.
So don’t let them win. Avoid topics that you know will turn into a pointless debate. Skip the “hot button” talks.
Don’t put yourself in the emotionally unstable position of trying to persuade unpersuadable combatants.
You will lose every time.
- Ignore them completely
Shut them out of your mind. Completely. Act as if they don’t exist.
Don’t look at them, talk to them, or listen to anything they have to say.
The truth is that they probably have some great things to say. Between the pettiness and general nonsense that they spew at you, there is truth and some quiet brilliance.
Here’s why it doesn’t matter. You’re not going to hear it anyway. The pain from their hate clouds any value that they could actually provide.
So ignore them while you heal.
- Do not respond.
- Stupid people take lack of response as weakness, and pile on. And being the stupid people they are they generally expose a flank in their arguments pretty quickly. When you sense that there is a way where you can attack them in a logical manner that they cannot refute (trust me, it will come), after then, wait some more. Now. The easy part.
Focus on that point, and slum them all over the place. Use that point to disprove all other points. Underhanded tactic, yes, but the only way to shut up stupid people.
Last but not least:
One great method I have been using lately would be to constantly remind myself that whilst I cannot control their thoughts or actions, I can control my own. Then it becomes clear that it is ultimately pointless to get rifed up by these people and helps one to be more tolerant/loving.